Marriage is a union between a man and a woman. I support proposition 8 which passed in California last fall.
Here are the reasons I feel strongly about this issue:
Secular arguments in support of traditional marriage:
1. Traditional marriage is an institution as old as history itself. The very definition of marriage is "the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law". The institution of marriage has always been, and continues to be, a societal institution designed to priviledge and limit the procreative power shared by a man and a woman who desire to be united together. This institution has existed unchanged for thousands of years as the very basis of society. (Yes I recognize that arranged marriages and plural marriages have also existed at various times and in various cultures. The point is still that they are male + female = marriage).
It is not the right of gay people to re-define this most basic of all societal institutions and to force that definition upon the majority of the world. If marriage is re-defined legally, it will have broad societal impacts that will take away freedoms from people who support traditional marriage. For example, same-sex marriage will be required curriculum in schools, private adoption services will be forced to give away children to same-sex couples, and churches and other private facilities will be forced host both traditional and same-sex weddings, even if building owners do not want to host same sex weddings. Those in favor of traditional marriage will be labeled as bigots, when in reality, they are only trying to protect their fundamentals beliefs and values. Changing the definition of marriage would not simply allow a segment of the population to do as they wish. In reality, it would re-define the most fundamental societal unit for the rest of the population, and force that changed definition upon them in numerous ways.
In summary, marriage has always been a union between man and woman designed to priviledge and limit procreation. Individuals of the same sex should be allowed all the legal benefits of marriage through civil unions, but the definition of marriage does not apply to those unions because they are obviosly non-procreative. Same sex couples fall outside the category of marriage. Marriage is not a union between two people in love who desire to commit to each other. That is part of it, but the very basis and bedrock of marriage is the procreative power. That power only exists between a man and a woman.
2. The preponderance of social science research shows that raising children in a home with a father and a mother is the most ideal situation. Too much to list here, but if you even break the surface of researching this issue, science clearly supports traditional marriage families.
3. Gay health issues. I won't go into detail, but there are a host of medical ailments associated with sexual activity between individuals of the same sex, the least graphic of which is HIV and AIDS.
4. Every human being that has ever lived was created by a man and a woman, and the majority of that procreation has occured within the bonds of marriage. Same-sex couples cannot create human life. They should not force their definition of marriage onto the very society that was created by procreation between men and women.
Spiritual arguments in favor of traditional marriage:
1. Genesis chapters 1 & 2: God created man and woman, Adam and Eve. He married them, and charged them to multiply and replenish the earth. Thus, the first institution in the world was marriage between a man and a woman; an institution designed for procreation.
2. "The Family: A Proclamation to the World"
http://www.lds.org/library/display/0,4945,161-1-11-1,00.html3. The scriptures denounce homosexual conduct as a sin. Many scriptures cover this issue, but the city of Sodom is a good example. Genesis 19.
4. Christ taught that marriage between man and woman is designed by, and ordained of God. Matthew 19:4-6.
In summary, I realize that this is an emotionally charged issue, and a very challenging one for many people. I also realize that it is not a black and white issue. Some people are born with both male and female reporductive organs, and their parents and doctors "choose" a sex for them. Later in life they may experience same sex attraction through no real choice of their own. I recognize that this is a broad issue, which encompasses biology and how people are raised, as well as agency.
I think that gay people should be loved and treated justly.
However, I do not believe that marriage is intended, healthy, or applicable to same-sex couples. I support them having legal priviledges through civil unions, but do not support re-defining marriage and changing the fundamental unit of society into something it is not.
Thoughts on the issue?
Brian